Promoting Positive Self-Esteem in Black Children and 5 Ways to Build Confidence as Parents, Internal vs. External Control
We all want to be responsible parents. After all, that’s the job we signed up for. With that responsibility comes a legal, moral and ethical requirement that we do what we can to control our children. Though it is an expectation of child-rearing, it also behooves us to recognize our limits and learn how to manage our children without becoming dominating or overly controlling. As Black parents, we should always be mindful of protecting and increasing our children’s self-esteem, especially our young Black males. Unfortunately, we see more, and more of our children deemed at-risk for academic failure. At-risk is defined as failing at least one class the previous year. Our job as Black parents is to develop young adults who can control their behavior without external motivation or short-term gratification. That requires that we teach them to manage and govern themselves. Managing vs. Controlling Children One aspect of management is control. Think about teachers. Classroom management requires that they assume control of the environment. Behavior management requires that they accept control of the children’s behavior in the classroom. Teachers achieve these responsibilities by using skills. If simply telling kids to sit still and be quiet were sufficient to manage [...]
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We all want to be responsible parents. After all, that’s the job we signed up for. With that responsibility comes a legal, moral and ethical requirement that we do what we can to control our children. Though it is an expectation of child-rearing, it also behooves us to recognize our limits and learn how to manage our children without becoming dominating or overly controlling. As Black parents, we should always be mindful of protecting and increasing our children’s self-esteem, especially our young Black males. Unfortunately, we see more, and more of our children deemed at-risk for academic failure. At-risk is defined as failing at least one class the previous year. Our job as Black parents is to develop young adults who can control their behavior without external motivation or short-term gratification. That requires that we teach them to manage and govern themselves. Managing vs. Controlling Children One aspect of management is control. Think about teachers. Classroom management requires that they assume control of the environment. Behavior management requires that they accept control of the children’s behavior in the classroom. Teachers achieve these responsibilities by using skills. If simply telling kids to sit still and be quiet were sufficient to manage [...]
